Is Watching Porn Hurting Your Sex Life?

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Pornography.

It’s a dirty word to some, but the truth is it’s everywhere. More people than you probably realize are watching it.

With the Internet only growing in size and influence every day, it’s not going away anytime soon.

Still, as pervasive as it is, porn can and does have an impact on thousands of people around the world. Ironically, this is particularly true in the bedroom.

In today’s article, we’ll look at the damaging effects of watching porn on your sexual performance. Then, we’ll tell you what you can do about it.

Let’s get started, shall we?

Why It Happens

Watching porn is an activity that’s taken on a different form than it had in the ’90s, ’80s and ’70s.

Different, in that it’s easier than it’s ever been — by a long shot.

What used to be restricted to the pages of a magazine or the inside of a VHS cassette has been brought to smartphone screens.

The kind of videos men (and women) had to hide under their mattresses when they were younger are now only a few clicks away on their computer.

While doctors have always said that masturbation is completely normal and healthy, quick access to, well, “material,” has changed that. What medical experts are seeing more and more of is young men with heavy porn habits suffering from erectile dysfunction.

The cause of this is rudimentary:

  1. Masturbating to pornography is considered a low-level addiction. it is similar to coffee or even a runner’s high. That means that many people do it. Plus, physically, it’s not too hard on your body and central nervous system.
  2. As porn becomes more freely available, however, men are aroused more frequently. In their quiet moments, they masturbate more.
  3. As the masturbation increases, dopamine receptors become less sensitive. Watching porn that is “just the standard” works less effectively. Users have to go in search of more intense content just to physically get the same results.

This has effects beyond just masturbating to pornography. As men struggle to get hard to standard porn, they also experience issues having sex with actual partners.

Intimacy and making love, while still special, provide less stimulation than whatever level of porn they are used to watching. One night stands and casual sex become more difficult, as well.  Also, erectile dysfunction becomes a real problem for these people.

Similarly, combined with low levels of exercise and poor diets, overexertion of the penis can lead to fatigue. This is understandable. But, it is uncomfortable in a sexual setting, where expectations are for both partners to be ready.

As pressure mounts and the dysfunction continues, it’s also possible for the problem to become psychological in nature. More failed exercises in the bedroom might encourage the man to retreat further into pornography. Beyond that, one or the other partner might become resentful.

They may also resign themselves to being “cursed”.

It’s easy, at this point, for the problem to become cyclical.

Watching porn leads to erectile problems. This dysfunction leads to feelings of insecurity. Those feelings make the problem worse. As the problem gets worse, men turn to pornography to fulfill their needs. Then, the whole process starts all over again.

It’s not only men who are affected by watching too much porn. Women go through similar disassociation from their dopamine receptors from repeated use.

Lastly, whether men or women, both genders also suffer from the psychological impact of repeated porn watching. Not everyone experiences the same insecurities. Still, the standards set by men and women in porn, edited to look more virile, affect our expectations of our partners.

How to Beat It

The upside to porn affecting your love life is that the cure is fairly straightforward:

Stop watching porn.

Train your body to kick the habit you’ve formed around the process of masturbating to pornography.

While this might sound flippant, it’s true and extremely important to making a full recovery. At the point where watching porn is affecting your sex life, you shouldn’t be watching it. That means avoiding websites that feature it in any way.

Start by setting goals for yourself: stop masturbating for a month.

For someone doing it daily, this might seem impossible. But the longer you refrain from doing it, the more you’ll realize it’s a minute-to-minute process. If you can stop yourself from doing it right now, it’s not unthinkable you’ll be able to do that again in an hour when you get the urge.

If you have a persistent problem getting or maintaining an erection (or becoming “wet”), visit a doctor for a medical assessment.

Beyond that, there are various ways for someone with this kind of problem to distance themselves from pornography:

Exercise

This is an excellent outlet for all that energy you might otherwise use on yourself. In addition to being a good distraction, it’s also a great way to prepare your body for a healthy sex life with a partner.

Therapy

Psychiatrists are qualified to address the root causes of various mental ticks and ailments. If you can identify a porn problem but can’t seem to “kick” it, it could be that a therapist would help you get past your hangup.

Watching Porn: More Dangerous Than You Think?

As we mentioned at the top of this article, more people than not will enjoy pornography at some point in their lives.

There’s nothing wrong with enjoying it, social and gender issues aside.

Where it becomes a real risk, is when it becomes a habit. That habit becomes an addiction, and, given enough time, that addiction leads to decreased libido and sexual ability.

If you are struggling with the negative effects of watching porn, the good news is that getting healthy again is straightforward, though not easy.

The first step is admitting you have a problem.

Good luck!

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